Anger is a complex emotion that can be triggered by a variety of situations. However, it is important to recognize that anger is often a symptom of other underlying emotions.

Often we are not aware of the significance a situation has on us until it surfaces through anger. For example, work, family, health, and financial issues are common sources of stress that can make you feel anxious and irritable. Failing to reach a goal or feeling that things are out of your control can also lead to anger. Repressed anger can lead to depression, paranoia, and passive-aggressive behavior. The long-term physical effects of uncontrolled anger include increased anxiety, high blood pressure and headache.

Hidden anger can manifest itself in any number of ways. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to see if there are other emotions that may be hidden beneath the surface:

1. Is my level of anger and my reaction out of proportion to the trigger?

Do you seem to overreact to minor annoyances? Perhaps there is something else on your mind that’s making you angry?

2. Am I directing my anger at an innocent person?

Are you really angry with the person who triggered your feelings? For example, suppose you have a disagreement with your boss. It bothers you all day, but you say nothing. Later, you let your anger out by blowing up at your partner or child.

3. Am I taking something personally?

Learning to deal well with anger means learning not to take problems or arguments personally.

4. Is this how I usually respond in similar situations?

You may respond with anger in certain situations because that’s what you’ve always done. You may have learned this behavior growing up. But you can change the way you react.

5. Am I trying to take charge of the situation with my anger?

Anger is a common reaction when a person feels as if he or she is losing control. But the best way to show control is to react calmly and manage your feelings.

Anger is a complex emotion that can be triggered by a variety of situations. However, it is important to recognize that anger is often a symptom of other underlying emotions. By asking yourself the questions listed above, you can begin to identify the root causes of your anger and learn how to manage your emotions more effectively. Remember that it is okay to feel angry, but it is important to express your feelings in a healthy and constructive way.

For more information visit:

https://store.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/d7/priv/anger_management_manual_508_compliant.pdf

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-emotional-intensity/202201/5-symptoms-repressed-anger

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/anger-how-it-affects-people